I Am Love

Recently I read a quote by Neale Donald Walsch and I had such a positive emotional reaction to it, I wanted to share it with you.

.that love is not what you want, it is what you are. It is very important to not get these two confused. If you think that love is what you want, you will go searching all over the place. If you think love is what you are, you will go sharing it all over the place. The second approach will cause you to find what the searching will never reveal..

Upon reading this quote I instantly was filled with joy and love. I copied it into a computer file to see if the quote would still spark the same strong reaction in the days that followed – and it did! So I began thinking,  “Why does this quote make me feel so happy and overjoyed?” And I realized that the thought that love is not what I want but what I am is liberating.  It frees me from all those thoughts that can make me feel rejected or not loved in any situation that I may encounter.

I know that love can be complicated and this may be too big of a leap for some people to make in certain relationships in their lives.  So, let’s explore it gently and see what is possible. Lets look at some situations that can be hurtful in our lives but not devastating. For instance, maybe a group of people did not invite you out with them for an evening, maybe someone removed you as a friend on facebook, maybe a friend forgot to call you when you were going through a hard time or maybe a relative did not show up for holiday dinner. When we react to these situations by feeling not cared for and searching for confirmation of love we can end up feeling so lonely, empty and even angry. Our focus is all about what we are not getting from other people and we tend to believe that they are the reason why we are disappointed and unhappy at times in our lives.

Yet when we turn it around and see ourselves as love the emptiness goes away. Our hearts need not search for what we are not getting because we are filled with how much love we have to give. For me, it makes me want to create my own group to go out for dinner with and connect with new friends on Facebook. I begin with not seeing what someone may have done wrong to me but instead seeing what I can do to spread more love and understanding. It also makes me want to invite the people I love to a holiday dinner regardless of whether they choose to come. This way I am not looking for anyone to give me what I need because I realize that it already exists within me.  I feel less needy, more giving, and less rattled by how other people are behaving.

Interestingly, with my focus more on the love that I give out all day, I feel that I have been getting more love in return.

I would truly like to know how this quote makes you feel.  Maybe write me back and let me know.


23 Comments on “I Am Love”

  1. Karen Whitney says:

    I love this and have been practicing this in my life and teaching this idea to my children. We are so much more than we are led to believe. We are perfectly imperfect, and when we embrace and love our whole selves, love emanates from us and brings into our lives exactly what we need.

  2. Russ Wollman says:

    Absolutely right. And expectations can get us in trouble: we set ourselves up for disappointment when we expect something, when we “keep score” in relationships.

    Love freely given brings the most abundant returns. When you think about it, the only real right we have as human beings is the right to give love. Or is it a duty? ;-)

  3. Gina says:

    Let love live

  4. Sherry says:

    Well this is inspiring; however, I think only applicable to situations mentioned in the article which are easily dealt with this way. Yet, when it comes to love relationships and one is dumped things get more complicated and this quote might not be applicable

    • Sherry, Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I realize that relationships are complicated, but I do believe that if we are always looking for other people to fill us with love we will never feel truly loved and fulfilled. i think knowing we are love is the ticket to real joy and freedom. It does not mean that we stay in relationships where we are being abused or not cared for. In fact, I think being love leads us to self-love and making good decisions for our lives. That being said, I totally respect what you are saying and not one philosophy works for everyone. thanks for stopping by. I hope to hear from you again in the future.

  5. I think the love relationship is a relation of give and take . the more I give the more I take so it starts with my attitude to give and broaden my heart to accept others .
    but my heart will be always unable to give love unless it is primarily full charged with the heavenly love . for what man does not have , he cant give .

  6. MAye says:

    I find the whole piece inspiring. i often hold grudges and feel that with certain people who I belive do not give me enough that i need to give less just because they do. That in itself is the start of agony, stress and sadness. I agree, we need to give and spread love unconditionally and this wil lead to our happiness. I believe the good will prevail and No one will make you feel loved if you do not love!

  7. Lisa says:

    This is a lovely post Allison, and one that reminds me that life isn’t about what we can get; it’s what we can give, whether we’re talking love, kindness, mercy, smiles and everything else. I think we live in such a ‘me, me, me’ world that we have to intentionally reset ourselves often and be the change we want to see instead of waiting for others to inspire us. Thanks for being my guidepost today.

    • Lisa, You are right. Everything around us often signals us to take and take, but if we can just remember the true source of what we are it changes everything. When I am love, all is love. Great to hear from you!

  8. Heba says:

    Can one love 2 at the same time ?? Please answer ?

  9. Heba says:

    Sorry Alisson , I don’t understand .. I asked can a man love 2 women at the same time ???
    Pls answer

    • Yes, I believe that someone can love more than one person – the heart knows no boundaries. However, to act on both loves can cause great pain to everyone if there is deceit and dishonesty.

  10. I have found that the more I focus on being love, the more love I receive. That quote is beautiful.

  11. Russ Wollman says:

    Allison, I feel a thrill every time you like one of my posts on Infinite Space. Infinite Time. Today connections are possible as never before. It’s magic—as are you. All my best wishes, Russ Wollman

  12. Everything Is One Thing And Is LOVE


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